Acceptance in Relationships

When we are in a relationship with another person, it can be so challenging to remember that even though the relationship between us is part of our life’s journey, we each still have our own separate life purpose, life path and life lessons. And we may not be on the same timeline for learning some of these lessons.

This can be exciting and frustrating at the same time. Exciting because we often want to share our solutions and findings from our lessons – sometime we share these because we want to help them figure it all out and get through the tough part. Frustrating because when we share this information they don’t get it! Perhaps they just aren't there yet, or if we're wanting them to use what we've learned, it seems so obvious to us what they need to do to fix things or feel better – but they don’t see it, and when we tell them what we know, they don’t take action!

It may help to recall times when we’ve been in their shoes and people have told us about their learning and how they figured it all out and how we didn’t listen because we needed to figure it out for ourselves, even if it took us 10 years to do it. And it may help to recall times when our loved ones were patient with us while we went through this learning without trying to tell us how to do it and letting us figure it out for ourselves while being an ear to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, and full of love and light. They let us experience our journey without expectations and judgment, and accepting where we were even if it didn’t fit with where they were or where they wanted us to be.